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4/21/12

Being the Fat Blogger

This is something I have been thinking about for a while. I hope I can share my thoughts without sounding catty or jealous. Because that is totally not me! I will admit that I have had those evil thoughts but I don't feed into them and let them take over me. Even then, I can't help but notice that I am the fat blogger and miss out sometimes. I wonder if people pass up on hitting the follow button or adding me to their favorites because of my size. Just like in real life, I worry about what people think. I obsess over the losing a follower right after posting an outfit post. I am thinking that they don't want to see a fatty in high waisted jeans and hit the unfollow button. And it upsets me! Which is not my usual strong, confident, fat acceptance activist self! 

But I do worry and feel left out sometimes. Much like how in real life I can't shop at every store and don't quite fit in certain theater seats, the blogging world makes me feel like I don't fit. I will probably never be the ModCloth Blogger of the Moment and nobody is going to draw my portrait or mold me out of paper or clay. But I puff my chest out and keep on doing what I do. Because I am happy! And I wear pretty clothes too! I love taking photos, making art and telling my story. But I realize that if I was doing the same exact thing as the cool bloggers, it wouldn't be the same. Because so many people and kids idolize them and want to be them and beg for their attention. Shit, that sounds horrible! I am actually thankful that doesn't happen to me.

I am overwhelmed that I have as many readers as I do and that Blogger made me Blog of Note. I work hard on my blog because it is something that I love to do. There are perks but it doesn't nearly compensate me for all the time and effort I put into it on a daily basis. But I am not complaining. I didn't start blogging because I wanted to be popular, although I can't help but say it is nice sometimes. It is nice to be appreciated. But rather than be followed by a million people that don't really care. I would rather have readers that I can relate to and get to know. I figure the people that stop following me are probably not the person I will relate to. And if they stopped following because of my size, then they probably have their own issues about weight and maybe the little they got to know me will help them come to terms with it in the future. 

I am not the only fatty on the block, there is tons of fatshion and plus size bloggers out there and even a few like me that have snuck into the mainstream community. We balance on the line between being plus size bloggers and just bloggers. And since I am anti-diet and feel strongly about fat acceptance, it pushes me further into the plus size side. Is is possible to be on both sides? I am not sure. I am not invited to any plus size blogger meets or events (except for one that was too far away). But if being myself means that I will always be in limbo and not really fit, then I can be okay with it! I have had a chance to represent fat acceptance to people that may have never heard of it otherwise. 

I know that it is not the intention of other bloggers to make me feel this way. These are my own paranoid and self-doubting thoughts. But being the fat blogger is fucking hard sometimes.
- Rachele

161 ♥ COMMENTS ♥:

yaga said...

awh. you have a ton of followers, and i think you do well to remind yourself, that if one or two unfollow because you don't write what they want, then you don't want them to read your blog, anyways... i think that happens to everyone. you can't please the world.
and then, why try to fit in when you were made to stand out? ;o)
cheers
yaga

Gina said...

Keep doing what you do Rachele! You have some serious style and your artwork is great and I think of you every time I see an owl now :-)

Katie Van Heest said...

It may be hard, but you make it look easy. Seriously, you're doing a great job. PLUS, I'm wearing the glasses I got at Coastal because of your post earlier this week (super-fast shipping). I hope I did the whole referral thing correctly because it's all because of you (and the other fat bloggers who tipped me off to the dress I'm wearing and who reinforce the confidence that I muster day in and day out) that I'm getting compliments from strangers today.

Katy said...

I love your blog, i don't comment much as i don't really have anything to say but trust me i always read and love everything you do :) I'm fat and a size UK 20 and im very shy about it, i never mention it on my blog as i feel people laugh and judge me, so i think your really cool that you show people it's OK! I wish i had the confidence to do what you do and wear the beautiful clothes!

Keep it up i love it!

Katy x

Ashley Russ said...

I love your blog because you are such an inspiration. It's sad when people can't see beyond size and judge others based on that. :P I enjoy your blog because of your photography, your fashion, and quirky sense of humor! 

Victoria Rosas said...

I love your blog, am a new follower and I think you are super sweet and interesting. The weight thing was never something to consider to follow you or now...and I would totally draw your portrait if you let me, and I would blog about it :3

Amanda Levitt said...

One of the amazing things about fat acceptance is that we get to accept the moments when we doubt ourselves. Don't beat yourself up if you have a bad day or need to reevaluate.

Andshecamealive said...

I wonder all of this as well. And it's only natural. Hmmn...

Pretty Penny Mae said...

Ah Rachele, you are wonderful my dear, and frankly if people decide not to follow you based solely on your weight and not on the amazingly fantastic content of your blog then those are not the folks worthy of following your blog anyway I've been following you for well over a year and I started because I identified with you, not only because of how you looked, but also because of your posts. The work you put into your blog shows and you should be super proud it!
♡ Brooke

Nicole Sweetcheeks said...

Miss Rachele, you inspire me and weather its easy to see or not you make a big difference in the blogging world. I too am a fat blogger and don't want to be put in a box of plus size bloggers, I want to be me and were ever that lands me, great! I chose to advertise on your blog because I identify with you. I chose you to do my first review with because of the person you are. I feel that you are the most "real person" I've met on here, the fact that you show the good and the bad and not just the parts that make you look good.  It's funny because I thought of you and how confident you feel in your clothes when I got dressed today, I put on this dress that was a little more clingy then my normal comfort zone dresses. I thought of your posts about your favorite skirt and just thought to myself "people are going to see that I'm fat, no matter how well anything is draped, I'm still going to be fat and people are just going to have to get over it." I know that that is my battle, but you inspire me to be bold. Of course I mean this in a non-crazy stalker way!  I have lot more to say, but I just wanted to let you know that everyone struggles sometimes and it's ok. What your doing does make a difference, and I hope that one day someone will tell me the same thing! Fuck it, your fat fucking rocks!

cb said...

i was just feeling this way about myself and my blog. i think we all think this about something. i am not your typical blogger girl either that posts about pretty things all the time, i do it my way and i too feel like i don't fit in. i bike, surf and i feel like it is hard to find other girls like me but that is the great thing about the world, we are all different. i love you just the way you are and love that you do outfit posts and love what you have to say. i think we all have to remember, i have to keep telling myself this too, that it is just a # and what really matters is if you are happy and about the connections you make through your blog.  keep doing what you are doing because in the end would you want someone who follows you who didn't like you for you? keep it up sweetie!
xo,
cb

Michelle said...

I just started following you last night :)  I had a quick read of your posts and knew I would love reading your future posts. Sometimes I follow blogs because they are a similar size to me  and have a similar style to me and I have them under my 'inspiration' category on google reader but I would never not follow a blog because of how someone looked, that's lame!! xx

Jasie VanGesen said...

Goodness gracious. It's like you're in my head, dear.

Hannah said...

If I could draw I would totally draw you! You're extremely inspiring, as simply a person! 

Angel said...

but...but..you're totally awesome!
..but you already knew that. :]

Patricia Worley said...

I would post a long comment here, but instead I painted a picture of you, for you.  
Take a look at it! I probably come off all creepy now, but that's just part of my charm, right?

http://patricia-writes.blogspot.com/2012/04/what-im-painting.html 

You're wonderful! 

Wanett Clyde said...

 Your painting, and the thought behind it, are beautiful!

nettiec said...

I can't say that I know you well and have loved your blog content in the past because this is my first visit here. I arrived in that round about fashion that sometimes happens when you read a lot of blogs and click a lot of pins. I ended up here after seeing a pic of you on Elycia's blog (also my first visit). I clicked your blog link because I thought you and your tattoos were beautiful! I'm following you now because I can relate to your insecurities in my own way and because thoughtful posts and confident outfit posts area always a WIN with me.

Eartha Kitsch said...

Wow! That's beautiful!
 

Eartha Kitsch said...

Oh, this makes me sad! It's definitely true that we never see ourselves the way that other people do. I remember how stoked I was when I found your blog recently. Not just because I am a plus-sized girl and I love your moxie  - but first because I really like your attitude and creativity and style. I would have stayed around even if I weren't a plus sized girl. Or even if you weren't because you have a great blog. 

"But I realize that if I was doing the same exact thing as the cool
bloggers, it wouldn't be the same. Because so many people and kids
idolize them and want to be them and beg for their attention."  - You ARE a cool blogger. Quite honestly, I think that there are enough of those kinds of blogs that you speak of. And the sheep mentality that makes so many people clamor to just get so much as a response to a comment from them. It's just...overplayed. Yada...yada...there are so many blogs that a person can take where every day is perfect, every outfit came free from a sponsor and life is just humming along in an annoyingly perfect way. I admire you like Hell for just being down-to-earth cool. And not that other kind of cool. Keep on doing what you're doing.

Jennifer Stearns said...

I sometimes find it hard to comment because I don't want to come off as a stalker...but...I freakin' love you. Yours is one of the few blogs I make sure I check daily. I often find myself trying to put together outfits that I never would have worn if I hadn't ever stumbled upon this blog. To hell with being the ModCloth blogger of the moment. I think they are missing out because they don't choose people like you. I'm sick of seeing the same thing by yet another version of the same person. You are gorgeous, funny, creative, and smart. I am pretty sure everyone I know has heard me rave about your blog because you inspire me. Just wanted you to know that you are awesome and your readers are lucky to have found you!

Mayra Alonso said...

Rachele, Your blog is the first blog I chose to follow! You are beautiful, sweet, smart and YOU inspire me!  You are an inspiration to all!  I'm sorry you feel hurt. I am confident YOUR inner beauty will prevail!

Marilyn said...

I absolutely love following your blog and learning more about you. If I could draw, I'd do your portrait :) and I love your outfit post and your style. I think you're beautiful and your confidence ia infectious. I understand your doubts in this crazy blog world but there's enough room for all types. I'm so happy to have found your blog a few months back. Don't worry about losing readers, there are plenty more I'm sure you'll gain who you will leave a positive impact on.

PoppyByfield said...

I am pretty sure that I'm not the only one of your followers who would paint your picture & mold you out of paper or clay or legos even (if I were any good at those things)!  I can't be the only girl who wants to see fat girls in high waisted jeans, bathing suits & sharp pixie haircuts in crayola colors.  Your adventures in fashion inspire so many of us to explore & obliterate the boundaries put on bodies of size by the media & society in general.  As a fat girl myself, I give you a little more credibility because you seem genuinely cool & I can relate to your personal struggles & insecurities.

Sierra said...

Hey, girl, hey.

I'm a fat blogger, too. If people don't like it, they can most certainly sod off. You're lovely. I've been following you for awhile and you've been one of my favorites for the same period of time. :)

Kathryn Westley said...

Wow your painting is amazing!

Kathryn Westley said...

You are an amazing woman and everything on your blog is great, I'm so new to the whole blogging world and this may seem stalkerish but i've gone back and read your blog from the start. Your style pushes boundries that i admire, who cares about what the blogging community does and doesn't do, just keep been YOU :)

Cath Elizabeth said...

You've always been a blogger that I've looked up to! And you're uniqueness makes you a cool blogger in my eyes. I appreciate the variety of your posts, about fat acceptance, outfits, thrifting and otherwise. You blog about what you love and that's what makes you such a fantastic blogger!

Lariats and Lavender said...

I think you're an amazing blogger, a gorgeous lady and a wonderful friend! Your body is YOUR body. And in my opinion, you treat your body like a temple, woman! You  love yourself and have so much respect for yourself and your beauty and that in itself is admirable! I feel this way about everyone, no matter their gender, height, weight, age, etc. It's our job to love ourselves and those around us with all we've got.

On that note, I do understand. I am a "different" blogger in many ways. Lesbian, Wiccan, a little heavy, not into dresses or skirts (much), don't follow fashion trends, live with my wife's parents, rarely post DIYs... I was going to post about this, but wasn't sure what to say!

It's just, when you look within the blog community you see SO many people who are so alike it's like they are twins and while that is great, if that's who they REALLY are, it's bad if they are being fake to "fit in." Fitting in has never interested me. I just wanna be me and I love me, so I am me, everywhere I go!!!

Just know, you are not alone with your self-doubts nor alone with your self love.

If you ever wanna talk, hit me up. I'm on GMail and such all the time. ;)

unitedstatesofbecky said...

Gorgeous painting!  The kind of thing I'd buy from a gallery.

Patricia Worley said...

Thank you!!! 

Patricia Worley said...

Glad you like, thank you :D 

Patricia Worley said...

oh geezz.....thank you very much :D 

Patricia Worley said...

oh my! Glad you like it! Maybe one day I'll sell portraits or something. :) 

unitedstatesofbecky said...

I really love this post.  I think it's very easy as a blogger to just say what we "want" to say and not get into anything particularly personal and sometimes, sharing the sad or the insecure is hard.  I really enjoy your site and have often felt inspired when seeing an OOTD post.  You're a strong female lead in your own movie, chicky bird.

I struggle with myself and my blog a lot.  What's funny is you don't think of yourself as a "cool" blogger but I see you as one of the "cool" crowd I will never fit in with.  I'm just different and I like following blogs of other people who are different.  I check in with some super-crazy-popular blogs now and then, but it always ends up feeling like a party where everyone knows all the jokes I'm not in on.  

Just stay the rockin' way you are.  

Sarah said...

Keep doing exactly what you are doing my lovely - your blog is fab and so are you. I had the thought to do a little portrait of you too but I was beten to the punch line there - maybe sometime soon I can add mine to the gallery.

Sarah
http://acatlikecuriosity.blogspot.co.uk/

Claire Marchant-Williams said...

I understand how you feel - especially because the plus size blogging community in the UK at the moment is going through a weird period of a lot of new bloggers being on the scene and demanding a lot from brands. SO the older bloggers who've been doing it for years and aren't so vocal have been pushed aside slightly. 
I have felt the same when it comes to blogging events etc (I know I invited you to Plus London :P), so I got around that my organising my OWN events - I did a clothes swap, I did Plus London and since then I have got invited to more events but I've actually found myself turning them down. Its a simple case of actually, the grass isn;t greener - its just paint and that paint stains you as a blogger. I'd rather - like you - love the readers I have and find my own corner of the fat community. I feel happy and confident so I don't care about freebies (funnily enough I am now starting to get them!) or events - I attend small blogger organised events instead and have a lot more fun.

Keep doing your thing Rach - I love it! I've been following you for two years and you inspired me to have a pixie crop! I actually took your picture to my hairdresser and was like "do this". So you do have an impact on us. I admire your style and attitude - those highwaisted jeans were an inspiration to me. 

Daring Coco said...

Hey you! I'm not a regular commenter on your blog, but I am definitely an avid reader and follower, I think it's amazing your representing and you seriously do an amazing job of it too. I'm kinda new on the block myself but in saying that I have noticed quite a bit too. Your blog has definitely a sense of community where as most of those other blogs with thousands upon thousands of followers and whose comments list takes about 10 minutes to scroll through, yeah looks impressive but if you stop and actually take a peak 98% of those comments are very much impersonal and just a quick way of advertising one's blog (hell I'm at times guilty of that myself LOL) and it happens to me quite a bit too. These days it's really a gem to find a blog like yours that's different from the mainstream Zara and H&M outfit posts that bombard my dashboard constantly. Your amazing and honestly I'd be willing to bet that those whom un-followed you where just those bloggers who want a follow for a follow! Chin up beautiful, do what makes you happy and keep blogging from the heart!

Sorry for the long post but have an awesome weekend!
Sonia
xoxo

A reader in London said...

I love your blog! I follow because I like and can relate to you as a person. I love your fashion, and how confidently you wear what you like. As a UK size 10-12 I always feel like I can't wear this or my bum looks big in that, but actually f*** it. We should just wear what makes us happy no matter what size, and your blog inspires this in me. Also I recently (2 year ago, is that recent?) went vegan and enjoy reading your journey into vegetarianism (I know you are pescetarian). Your blog feels personal and real. I don't get the feeling that you are just 'filling' pages to keep readers, you are giving us a peek into your real life. Love from me, all the way across the pond in London, England.

Chrissy said...

I love this post, thank you for writing this! I feel the same way! Only I never posted a full body pic of myself (oh the insecurities)! I just recently came across your blog and I am so glad I did, because I love reading REAL blogs and not the pink puffy perfect cloudy ones where everything is so great! Happy Sunday and keep doing what you do! Hugs xxx

Rachele said...

Thank you! I am glad I am not the only one that has these thoughts! I hope you put yourself out there one day, when you are ready. I am sure you are beautiful and will get nothing but positive comments.

Rachele said...

Thanks dear! That really means a lot to me.

Rachele said...

I appreciate you leaving a comment! You are very much right. I would rather feel love from a community of readers rather than lots of spam haha. Thanks for reading my whiny post. I am not going to change what I am doing!

Rachele said...

I will! Thank you! Aw that is really sweet of you to think of doing a portrait of me :)

Rachele said...

I think there is a fine line between honestly wanting to try new brands and represent and just being greedy and demanding. I am eager haha! But hopefully it doesn't come across as selfish. I certainly don't go around asking for things like I am entitled. I can't imagine there are bloggers out the doing that. Strange!

It is really neat that you have organized events! I wish I could be part of them. Thanks for being one of my sweetest readers. And copying my hair ;)

Deerdonna said...

i feel it majorly, and it pisses me off majorly. i went private for a while because of it. xo

erin said...

I hope this doesn't come across the wrong way, but I can't believe that you feel left out! You have so many followers and a great community here! I'm really just shocked that you would feel that way!

I'm actually pretty thin, so I can't relate on the weight, but I often feel the way you feel about being "left out" when I see so many bloggers being included in things that I kind of feel like I should be included in. My blog is still fairly small, but when similar bloggers (type of blog, audience, and readership size) are featured and promoted and plastered all over the blogosphere while getting free stuff to boot, I wonder what the heck I'm doing wrong and what is it about me that people don't like. I work my butt off on my blog and while I don't do it for popularity, it still comes across to me as "not being good enough" when certain other bloggers get all these benefits and I don't.

That sounds catty and jealous, and maybe it is a bit, but I can't really help how I feel, and I don't wish ill on another blogger, I just want to know what's wrong with me, you know?

Anyhow, sorry to make this comment all about me, I just wanted to say that I can relate at least to an extent! I actually have a post semi-related to this that I might post tomorrow (Monday) although I'm afraid it might ruffle too many feathers!

Keep doing what you're doing, if people don't like it, they don't have to read your blog, but I think you've got a great thing going here!

Kate Perry said...

I started reading your blog after Elycia posted about your glasses. I think you're super stylish! I love seeing your thifty finds and thoughtful outfits. I also live in Portland, and I feel like a dork when I can identify the layout of various Goodwills. And I'm such a jeans and t shirt girl, I admire anyone who goes to the effort to mix prints and accessorize and try out new silhouettes.  

Also, you are a really good photographer, and it takes a lot of guts to put your photos out there on the internet. I've done social media marketing for a bunch of different craft companies and blogging is part of my job, but since I'm both shy and don't really fit the image of a crafty blogger girl (in that I am more of a butch lesbian rather than a manic pixie dream girl), so I never put my image or identity out there. 

Mori Ta said...

you will need a translator to read this.... 'cus i can´t write very well in english....
 Rachelle, aunque no sepa escribir en inglés, si lo leo perfectamente, y a mí me encanta leer tu blog, lo reviso a diario!! Me parece que sos una mujer valiente, hermosa y muy creativa y eso se ve en tu blog, así q no te preocupes por ser "the fat-blogger", porque si es así yo soy tu "fat-reader" hahahaha...
Abrazos desde Nicaragua! <3 <3

Vonnie Mull said...

I'm 45 and I stumbled across your blog a few weeks ago while looking for short haircuts.  I find you enchanting and delightful; pictures of your life and your writing make me smile and I think you are a pretty neat chick. :) 

Lindsey Aylward said...

You are so much more than the fat blogger. You are the funny blogger, the pretty blogger, the fashionable blogger, the owl-obsessed blogger. You are gorgeous and you have amazing fashion sense. I love reading all of your posts! 

Lindsey Aylward said...

 I know you weren't fishing for compliments, but I felt like I had to share them anyway.

Stacey Halsch said...

I can relate to how you feel and i

Rachele said...

Thank you dear! I can be mushy and sentimental at times but I am far from sunshine and bubblegum 24/7 haha. I try to be the same as possible as I am in real life.  I am glad that it comes across that way.

Rachele said...

Haha I totally wasn't! Just spilling my little worried brain out a little. When it comes down to it, I don't feel bad for myself and I am happy with who I am, my size, etc. But you are really sweet to say those things. So thank you!

Rachele said...

Hopefully Google translated this okay!

¡Gracias! Yo amo a mi gorda :) lectores Gracias por leer y ser impresionante.Y gracias por los piropos dulces. Estoy enviando abrazos de nuevo a usted.

Rachele said...

Thanks Kate! That is awesome that you can figure out the Goodwill we are in. I don't know if I am that good haha! I think awesome blogs can come from all different kinds of people but sometimes I think I am a little crazy myself for doing it. 

Mo said...

Thank you for doing what you do and representing people who might not otherwise have a voice or a person in their lives they can relate to. I love ur blog because it's interesting and artsy, and sometimes practical (I bought glasses this week fro coastal too), and all around creative. And for me, none of that has anything to do with your size.

Rachele said...

And I can't believe still that I have as many followers as I do! I really am grateful for the people that read (like you) and interact with me and make my little corner a community. I don't feel completely left out. Believe me, this post is just me being worried and paranoid about not fitting in and my silly insecurities. I guess feeling like I am the last one to picked for the team but I want to be on both teams. But I am glad that I am not alone! Blogging can be rough on your emotions sometimes and I do my best to keep myself in check but I think it is okay if we whine about it every once in a while :)

Rachele said...

I love your blog, and you are so pretty! Why I am not following your blog?!?! Well, I just changed that. Your costumes are awesome. And I am having some serious tattoo envy!

Rachele said...

Oh and we should do something about our frustrations! We should start our own club...

Leslie said...

Being fat and actually acknowledging it, not treating it like a bad word, and not trying to hide it (or hide behind it) takes a lot of courage and work. But I am really thankful that you do it because I love the way you balance fat acceptance and all the other fantastic things I like in a blog. I like that you have found a realistic middle ground (reflective of life as a fat person, I'd think) where being fat is a part of your life, but it doesn't have to consume every thing you do. You are able to provide a point of view that is important to diversifying the "blogosphere", but being a fat blogger isn't the only thing you have to offer- if that makes sense. 

Anyway, sorry if that was a pile of gibberish. What it boils down to is that I love your blog!

Also, as someone who is plus-size, I really appreciate the posts about thrifting that you do because I also find myself frustrated in thrift stores and vintage shops. <3

Mori Ta said...

 and i love your red hair too!!

Arlu PerezParra Castro said...

you're amazing, very creative, i think as you do, actually I'm not skinny as almost all the bloggers, i don't like to talk about how much costed my jeans of how expensive are the clothes I wear, I like to upload my design of photography, i find that more interesting, don't worry about people, u're very talented and amazing :)

Rebecca Hunsperger said...

Dear Rachele,
   Your size has NO bearing on what you have to say, I followed you originally, because I find your quirky openness refreshing,  I am a little wider than I am tall, but I have come to the point that my size does not matter to me, and it became less important to me what people think of me, if they can not handle who a person is, despite their size, then you don't need that type of person around.  That being said, I have to make you look in the mirror and see the beauty and goodness that radiates out of you, and if you still feel fat, just know it is because this mortal body was not meant to hold such a vast amount of goodness, happiness, joy, kindness and personality such as you have, so it expanded and TADAHHHHH there you were, in all of your splendid glory.  I will not stop following you because of your size, but if you were a size 2, you more than likely would not be the wonderful person you have become, not saying that all "Twiggy-esque" women are not wonderful, but it takes a special kind of person to be able to do what you do, and size is never a true factor!!!!  Blog on, and please don't stop entertaining us, even if we are the self imposed silent creepers on your page =)
~Bekka

Rachele said...

Thank you for listening to me whine! Everything is not always kitties and cupcakes and I like to share that every once in a while. And if I am in the cool crowd, then what I am whining about anyway ;)

Rachele said...

Yay for us different gals! I would much rather seem strange or different than have people rolling their eyes at my conformity and be generic. Thanks for being a friend sweety! <3

Rachele said...

Thank you hon! I appreciate the sweet words :)

Rachele said...

Oh noes, all 700 posts? How embarrasing! Haha! You probably know a lot about me now *hides* Thanks for the encouragement!

Rachele said...

Agreed! Thank you hon!

Cheryl Sterling said...

Fabulous doesn't always come in a size 2. I follow because I love your drawings your spirit and style, high waisted pants and all. I appreciate your style because there are a lot of plus size people out there who make no attempt and style because they don't fit the fashion magazine mold. Keep doing what you are doing at whatever size you happen to be and try to keep that lizard brain doubt at bay.

Rachele said...

Aw you are too nice! " fat girls in high waisted jeans, bathing suits & sharp pixie haircuts in crayola colors" = awesome!

Rachele said...

Thanks Mayra! I don't really feel hurt. Mostly these are things that cross over my brain and I get over it.  I appreciate all your comments and sweet words deary!

Lauren said...

I discovered your blog because it was a blogger blog of note, and I am so lucky that I stumbled upon it.  Your fat acceptance and anti-dieting attitude are a breath of fresh air for me.  I know so many beautiful women who constantly put themselves down just because they're overweight.  Reading your blog is so great because it just goes to show that we fat girls can be pretty, interesting, and dress up just as much as the rest of them.  P.S. I know you mentioned that you're kind of getting bored with your jeggings, but I love them.  You inspired me to go out and buy my own skinny jeans, something that I never would have done before reading your blog!

Rachele said...

Haha thanks for being so sweet! I am happy with being unique :)

Rachele said...

Thank you! I am glad you found me! I really appreciate the sweet comment. And aren't skinny jeans awesome!? I was so happy when I discovered them.

Rachele said...

Haha thank you! They are lizard brain doubts. I had a moment of venting and I had no idea so many people would comment and care so much! I'll keep doing what I do :)

Rachele said...

Thank you! I have no problem with the word fat and I love being fat and I am quite happy with it. But sometimes I have my insecurities about my place in this world, not really about how I look. Thanks for being a creeper ;)

Rachele said...

Thank you! Me either :) I have no idea how much my stretchy jeans were but I am pretty sure it was under $20.

Rachele said...

That totally makes sense to me. I need to let go of my need to categorize my blog and just let it be me! I hope you have better luck at the thrift stores! I never buy new clothes anymore and it is nice to save the money.

Rachele said...

Hehe thank you!

LaCara said...

While the blogging community can be superficial at times, it shouldn't make you feel left out or make you feel subconcious. As long as you remain true to yourself and enjoy blogging that's all that matters! You have an amazing blog, and I didn't follow your blog because of your size, I followed your blog because I found it interesting and you feature your lovely artwork. Just continue to do what your doing and don't worry about trying to fit in the blogging community, because you're in a league of your own, so embrace it!  ;) xxx

Mrs D said...

Great post. I've just arrived and I'm an instant follower. And why? Because your content matters and you're not just here to be a mere clothes hanger, which is what I think about a lot of other blogs. Nice clothes are good to look at, but I like to look at interesting content and personality a lot more. If I want to look at models I'll go look at Vogue or for mere copies of what is trendy I'll go to the ASOS or something website. At least those are to the point and contain less drivel. Haha! 
Just keep doing what you love because I am sure a lot of people appreciate what you do - and you know what? They might just be the people that matter!
Hugs xx

greenapple said...

I can't believe this is an issue, you have over 1000 followers! wow!  I am not such a shallow person that I would follow or not follow because of how someone looks.  beaty is all around us, and I love to check on blogs with beautiful content, (and cats are good too)  I think most people will not waste their time on blogs with no real content no matter how pretty the blogger is or isn't.  Your self confidence is your best asset.  that and all your awesome glasses!

Amy Harpole said...

I hope that all of the comments that are on here are affirmations for you. I can relate almost 100%, I will admit that I am insecure at times and concerned about what others think but then when you step away and think about the people you are worried about thinking poorly about you, and realize that if they are judging you by the way you look, your morals or what you believe in, you also realize that makes you a better person. I really enjoy reading your blog and the things that you stand for, not everyone can do what you do!

Alianne Russell said...

I just found your blog and I love it! Your size did not have anything to do with my decision to follow it! 

Janet Lopez said...

Rachele! You are freakin GORGEOUS!!  I love your blog and I love how you give gals like us SO much inspiration to be confident. I wish I was as confident as you are. I too have my doubts at times, but it's just a waste of time. As long as you're happy and you make those you love around you happy, that is all that matters. I hope that all the comments followers/friends have left you really helps to lift your spirits n__n 

Lesley Jean Saligoe said...

Rachele, I haven't "known" you long but, girl, your heart is golden! I don't give two shits what you look like!! :) (Although I'm in love with your hair and gorgeous eyes.) I love your blog. You're pretty fucking awesome! (And thank you for saying the f word first so I can use it, too!) :D

Jenna Rogers said...

Sooo...I obviously didn't realize this was a post on your blog until now! I first read it on your tumblr link that you posted on twitter! That's what happens when I stay away from my computer for so long. I sent you a DM on twitter in response to the tumblr! To add to my DM...I think you are amazingly fabulous, unique in the best way possibly, quirky, and fierce as all get out! 

Jenna
SewSavoirFaireCreations.blogspot.com

Craftilyquirky said...

An amazing blogger is someone whose personality shines through text and you do that. That's why I read!

Rachele said...

Thank you! I think it really neat that people find my blog that way. I love that fat women are feeling great in short haircuts!

Rachele said...

Haha, exactly! I should let it be a reminder that I am unique :)

Rachele said...

Aw thanks! I have become the owl queen to my friends and family.

Rachele said...

Dude they are so fast! I am pretty sure I got credit for the people that got glasses so far. Can't wait to order more for myself haha! So lovely that you get compliments from strangers. Definitely a confidence boost :)

Rachele said...

Thank you! Yeah there are some very superficial people out there that can't see fat as beautiful. Or maybe they have their own issues with body image. But thank you for following! I hope I can show that the every size can bring it :)

Rachele said...

Thank you for the encouraging words Victoria! I can't say I would refuse a drawing from you :) I love your work!

Rachele said...

Exactly! It makes us stronger.

Rachele said...

I think so too.

Rachele said...

Thank you Brooke! I think we are body twins :) You are definitely one of the people I wished lived closer so we could hang out.

Jenifer Nakano said...

Although I wish I had your style (and love seeing your outfits!), it's posts like these that I admire. You're the real deal, missy.

Today was another sunny NW day! Hope you had a chance to enjoy all that vitamin D. :)

Rachele said...

Oh Nicole, you are too nice to me! It is really great to hear that I am portraying realness because sometimes I worry about that too.

Rachele said...

You are a rockstar for doing all those things and I love you for that! We have nothing to worry about because we are awesome. Thank you sweetie!

Rachele said...

I think we can all learn something from each other and styles, no matter our size. I really appreciate your encouragement and that you stuck around :)

Rachele said...

Haha, you are usually in mine too. We have a lot in common such as our feminist and religious (or lack of) views. I think a road trip may be in order one of these days! 

Rachele said...

Aw thank you!

Rachele said...

I guess sometimes I forgot ;)

Rachele said...

You made my weekend!

isis2197 said...

Confidence is hard-won and easy to lose, I know...but you are a blogger that I truly enjoy reading posts from, and I think we (the fatshion community) need more bloggers like yourself. Besides that, you're a woman that I can relate to, which is sometimes a difficult thing to do over the Internet. All I can say is: keep up the fantastic work; thank you for being an inspiration; and don't let this keep you down for too long! ^_^

Rachele said...

Thank you hon! I really appreciate the kind words from a new reader :)

Melanie Lea said...

Rachelle. Wowowowow! To be honest the only pictures I've seen of you are from the sponsor feature on Elycia's site and the profile picture on your blog. I actually have no idea what you look like but I can already tell you're someone I want to hear more from and get to know!


I do semi-frequent outfit posts myself as a way of learning to be comfortable with how I look. I'm having an exceptionally hard time with it these days and seem to be in a rut. I'm kind of like you in that I KNOW I'm on-the-whole okay with myself, but for now I just kind of want to feel a little pitiful and hesitant!

I love when I come across a genuine blogger. Someone that's got something to say who isn't doing the same thing as everyone else. I'm so glad I've found you dear lady! You seem like a strong woman and a fighter, so I know you'll get through this period of self-doubt soon. Looking forward to hearing more from you : )

mybillie.blogspot.com

Rachele said...

Deep down inside I don't really think these things, so don't feel sad! They are mostly just passing thoughts and worries. Thanks for thinking I am cool! And I love the word moxie :)

Jasie VanGesen said...

 I'm going to be right across the river in Vancouver over Memorial Day weekend for an unschooling conference. I say a cup of coffee/tea/libations is in order!

Rachele said...

Awesome!!!! Just tell me when and where and I will be there. Okay now I am going to go be nervous...

theowlclub said...

I just read through the many comments this post inspired and am left feeling like I have little to add, because clearly so many other readers, like me, just love your blog and who you are. It never occured to me that you might feel left out, partly because you're so awesome, gorgeous, talented and confident and partly because you seem to have such a great community of readers, friends and supporters!

I only really love blogs with passion and sincerity behind them, and I also believe that each blogger should do exactly what they want with their little online space, and if others love that, then all the better!

I've been pondering in my mind for ages this idea to write a post about why I blog.... and I think I will do that.

Danielle said...

So I haven't stopped by in a couple days & then find this post... where did happy bat shirt girl go?  On a more serious note, I haven't been reading your blog very long, but over that shortish time I have fallen head over heels with you, inside & out.  (((((HUGS))))), hope you are feeling back on top of the world this morning.  :-)

Sarah said...

Hey Rachele - here is a post dedicated to you!!

http://acatlikecuriosity.blogspot.co.uk/2012/04/monday-mantras-accepting-yourself.html

With a little sketched portrait thrown in for good measure.

Have a good Monday!!

Sarah

Cupcakeerthquake said...

I just wanted to say I love your blog and love reading about you. I never think of your size, and hope you never think of mine. We are very different people in different places, and so on BUT I connect with a lot of what you write and don't give a crap about a # on your scale. I happen to think you are flipping beautiful. 

Secondly I blog too and I am a new kid on the block and I see how the "fancy girl" bloggers look down from their thrones on new people or on people who are not just like them. Guess what? I am sure at times they have their what if moments they just have more people to chime in on it. 

Keep doing what you are doing. You are stunning, beautiful and fucking kick ass. 

Lindsey Davey said...

I'm going to come out of lurking to comment on this because you really spoke to me. Labels are never very fun, even the ones you think you want. I was to happy to read this post. I may not be a blogger, but I am fat and unapologetic about that fact, but I don't want people to see me in just that way. 

I also wanted to say that I squeed with joy when you posted yourself in those high waisted jeans. You looked so hot and confident. I totally caught my fiance ogling you too, made me wish I looked that good in a pair of jeans (don't try to say otherwise, I gave up on pants about 5 years ago.)

Anyways, this is a novel, just wanted to say keep doing what you're doing, just because I don't speak up all the time doesn't mean that I don't love every post.

elycia said...

just catching up on reading. I think you are awesome Rachele! Your confidence is fantastic and I love the message you send about body acceptance. I think it applies to all people no matter what their size may be. Totally understandable that you get bummed once in a while and compare yourself to others. I don't know a single person who that doesn't happen to every so often.  Yeah, labels suck and figuring out where you fit in can be a pain so I wouldn't even pay any attention to it. Just keep doing what you love and being yourself! I think you already have that figured out...I'm just confirming that it's the best idea!
<3

mari said...

I think one of the things I like most is that you do balance FA with everything else in your life.  That's what makes you one of my first reads every morning! As one of your many pixie cut fan girls (um, seriously... tried a little fauxhawk this weekend after seeing yours... I love it.  I might not ever go back) you are so loved.  It's so rare to meet such kindred spirits and I'm glad I've had the chance to get to know you a little bit more1

Geetabix said...

I love your blog. I don't comment that much but I follow and read it all the time.

Tam said...

You ARE loved!  Your blog is charming and well written, beautiful, fun and I LOVE IT!  Fat or skinny it is inspiring despite that fact and fun.  I don't usually comment but I want you to know I read your wonderful blog everyday you post and it makes me happy.  HUGS xoxo

Cosmia said...

I just found and started following your blog. I think you look like an awesome, interesting person and I love your style, and I don't care at all about what size you are! I think it's so easy for slim girls to look good in clothes, it's much more interesting to see bloggers of different shapes and sizes showing off their style. Also I always thought that plus sized bloggers have an amazing and close community that I was missing out on..! Also I think we all have the anxiety about being un-followed, it cuts deep! Anywho I look forward to reading more of your blog :D

Gina Carpellotti said...

Thank you for this entry -- and for the bravery it required to write it and post it. 

I am far more inspired by any OOTD that I see on your blog because you are buying the clothing yourself and putting it all together! I'm irked beyond belief by the bloggers (of all sizes) who get freebies for their OOTD. I'm not annoyed by the getting of the freebies, but by the incorporation of them. I can't afford $400 shoes and $200 skirts. My size body is different from your body, but your personal style -- the hair, that tattoos, the clothing -- it all speaks to me far louder than the "skinny" fashion bloggers. I love your blog because you write well, and you strike me as one hell of a cool chick. Keep on blogging! 

buberella said...

Personally, I think you're a breath of fresh air! I kind of can't stand these skinny minnie bloggers flouncing around, getting skinnier by the minute for free clothes and advertisements. It's not why I read blogs you know? I want to know the person. And you are gorgeous and plus sized like me. I'd rather see how outfits look on your body than one of those girls. If I starved myself and worked out every day I'd still be overweight so it's not inspiring to see these girls who have awesome personal blogs turn into these modcloth fashion plates overnight. And they don't talk about the fact that they're dieting but boy do they get skinnier by the second once a dress company comes knocking. And they don't talk about it either. Fashion blogging came from the idea of like "This is a horrible recession. We're all poor. Make that shit work. Buy thrifted stuff or stuff from KMart and be creative!" Now when I see a blogger that I like hawking a "c/o" $300 camera bag or a "c/o" $500 bike, I'm like "Good for you but now you've sort of lost me". Like the point of why I'm there is sort of gone. I want these gals to be able to make a living and I'm sure it's nice to be paid in products but it kind of makes for a shallow read when every other post is a "c/o" sponsored post for yet another "c/o" $180 dress. Misses the point.

Sarah said...

Honestly, I've never once read your blog or bought something from your shop and thought "oh Rachele, the 'fat blogger'." I just think "OOOOOOOHHH, The Nearsighted Owl... she's so damned talented and cool. Wish I was as popular and talented as she is!" And that in itself may be super nerdy and silly, but I really think you're incredible and I'm a believer in true size appreciation! I'm not fat and I'm not thin, so I don't fit into either category... I think you SHOULD embrace who you are... you're absolutely right to do so.

I guess my point is, I think you're freakin' awesome!! So smart and funny and interesting! AND BEAUTIFUL AS HELL!!!! :)

Xoxo, Sarah

Rachele said...

I really appreciate your kind words! And that you are a supporter of all sizes. I couldn't ask for nicer readers.

Rachele said...

It is hard for me to relate to too. I try not to roll my eyes too hard so they don't get stuck ;) I will be getting some plus size clothing to review soon, but they are things that I can actually afford myself and would wear. And I hope to try some new things and show what the clothes look like on someone at the larger end of plus size.

Rachele said...

Thank you! I was just writing on the comment after yours that I am not against getting things for review. But they are things that I can afford and would wear realistically and not just because it's free. And definitely something that other people can relate to and appreciate!

buberella said...

See, I like that. Reviewing things that are affordable isn't alienating to your audience. Especially because it's a review AND since it's plus size. But you know, I wouldn't want to ever stop you from accepting higher end things too. It's just that these people every other day have a $300 camera bag, a $500 bike, $250 shoes, a $200 dress. And they're all "c/o". I got in trouble with a blogger who is NOTORIOUS for this the other day. She doesn't allow negative comments on her blog and posts post after post of "photo shoots" of her posing in "c/o" stuff. I just carefully worded my comment neutrally so it wouldn't go to some comment hell. I just said something like, "Do you ever feel bad posting all of this c/o expensive stuff when we are in such a steep recession?" She actually responded back and said, "We post a lot of free DIYs and sponsors help the site look better." I said, "Well but does it ever make you feel bad? Sometimes when I come to this site, it makes me feel worse than before I did. I think it might be alienating to other people too. It might be a blind spot you're not seeing." She said, "I hope you have a good weekend! No I really do!" Then someone called me "jealous" as her minions are wont to do. But I felt like my question had been answered and it was "No I don't feel bad at all." And that's fine but now I won't come back. Tons of other Internet to read. That's a long-winded way of saying that sometimes I think bloggers don't see the whole picture on "c/o". I don't begrudge anyone a living and it must be fun to get free stuff but when the stuff becomes unattainable, it's a turn-off for the plebeians reading haha.

buberella said...

Also, please forgive my crazy long reply before. I was technically still sleeping and ra-ra-ra-rambling!

Rachele said...

Well I am up for the challenge :)

Rachele said...

Thank you! I feel loved and couldn't ask for nicer comments and readers.

Rachele said...

Thanks sweety!

Rachele said...

Me too Mari! It's hard finding that balance sometimes. I am not sure if people will be interested in fa because I blog other things too. But I have realized that people of all sizes can relate to body image.

Rachele said...

I think I'll label myself as Rachele! In a category all by myself. Then I can be the best :) Except I get a little stuck when a form asks me what type of blog I have. I think I pick something different every time.

Rachele said...

Haha oh my! I'm blushing now...

Rachele said...

Thank you! I am happy with my size and I hope that still shines through. I know that can be hard for some people to understand and maybe don't agree. But it's part of who I am and I wouldn't have it any other way.

Rachele said...

Thanks Sarah!

Rachele said...

Haha she flew away into the woods! No, she's still here. Thanks for the love!

Rachele said...

Thank you Suki! And I agree...it's my space to be me. I am still surprised sometimes that anybody is interested. I look forward to reading your post! I am sure you'll inspire me.

Rachele said...

Outfit posts can be hard sometimes! We are our worst critic. But it can be such a freeing experience to put yourself out there! I appreciate your sweet words so thank you :)

Rachele said...

I wont! Thank you :)

Rachele said...

Haha I wrote this one sitting in my pjs and in the dark. Doesn't get more real than that ;)

We have been enjoying the sun here and there. Hope you are too!

Rachele said...

Thank you! That is very encouraging!

Rachele said...

Aw, now I'm really feeling spicy!

Rachele said...

I think you're fucking awesome too Lesley Jean!

Rachele said...

That means a lot to me! Because a lot of my confidence comes reading FA blogs so to be on the other side is a total honor.

Rachele said...

Thanks!

Rachele said...

Very much so! And it's nice knowing I'm not the only one.

Rachele said...

I realize that and I'm so not ungrateful! I guess I'm just thinking about where I fit.

Rachele said...

You definitely won't see that here! Most of what I wear is 5 years old or thrifted. Thank you! Those people really do matter the most and not the voices of self doubt in my own head.

Rachele said...

I will! Thank you!

Morgan Adele said...

The whole "fat" and "thin" issue in the world drives me insane, we're all different! And I know a lot of people who are "thin" but are the most unhealthiest, unhappiest people! And up until a few hundred years ago women who were a bit "fat" were worshiped for being fertile, it was the "thin" ones who were tossed aside then! :P But "thin" or "fat" or "in between" we're all human, who gives a poo what we weigh!!

Erin Wilson said...

I finally got a chance to come over and this post you mentioned on my blog. (I'm behind on my blog reading as of late) I felt a lot of those same things you have mentioned here in the past, that's why I had a hard time talking about my body on my blog. I wish everyone saw a person the same, not thin or thick and such, just equal. That would be a wonderfully magic world wouldn't it? I think the wiser the blogging world becomes the more open they are to people of all kinds and sizes. I appreciate this post so very much. 

Kim said...

I love you so much. And I think you are awesome. Honestly- I think we would be, like, best friends. And I have the same doubts and sillyness about my height- like, I'm bigger and taller than a lot of bloggers, always feel like the giant. haha. Much love, Kimxo

Rachele said...

Let me know if you still want to do something! I have a long weekend too.

Lkrist said...

Hiya! First of all; THANK YOU for such a LOVELY blog. Secondly; thank you for taking a stand for yourself. Body image and accepting oneself is a problem I've been battling since way back in time and feel for you within that respect. I'm still battling eating disorders, which comes and goes, but reading about someone like you is such an inspiration and makes me want to fight even harder to get those body-issue demons out of my head. THANK YOU for being you. Loads of love, xx

Kim said...

I am 100% new to your blog (today's my first day!), but I firmly believe that Sarah's hit the nail on the head.

You are a mother-trucking rockstar! :) So much fun to read, so in love with life - an inspiration, really! :) Keep doing what you're doing, lady! :)

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