My mission:
All sizes are beautiful! Don't be ashamed of your number or keep it from living your life and doing what you love. There is no perfect or wrong size. It doesn't determine our worth and nobody has the right to judge someone's health by their size. So let's show the world that every size can be happy and that we are not ashamed!
How to participate:
I would love to see all different sizes represented in this link up. Whether you are a 0 or 32, participate! This is a weekly feature so each link up will be open for one week. You can add your link anytime during the week. All genders, sexes and non-genders are welcome to join in. Use whatever sizing you are most familiar with. You can link up with me every week with a new post or join in every once in a while! The rules are simple. Post a photo of yourself on your blog, being stylish that week. Post a full body shot, so head to toe! State your size in your blog post or with a graphic on your photo. No diet talk, weight loss talk, negativity or any type of body shaming allowed. This is about being happy with your size and shape, not because it is socially acceptable, healthy or better than others. Then come back here and add your link using the link tool at the end of this post.
I want to talk about what it is like to be fat. I think that a lot of people don't understand and might assume that every moment is a struggle. Yes, I rant and discuss fat acceptance. But I am not asking for people to feel sorry for me or make me feel better about being fat. It isn't my fat that bothers me or challenges me, it is the way fat people are treated. It is a civil rights issue. According to the dictionary, civil rights are defined as the rights of citizens to political and social freedom and equality. Fat people are discriminated in all aspects of their life and it is not acceptable. See how that works? Dances with Fat does a superb job blogging about fat acceptance and I recommend you read it if you are interested.
But when I am at home or in my own world and not being affected by the outside world, my fatness is the last thing on my mind. In my head, my body is normal. Not because I am delusional but because I know my body. I know it's limits and I know the amazing things it can do. It is a common assumption that fat people are carrying around all this extra weight, like we are dragging around extra people around and feel constantly burdened. Or that we can barely move or function. That might be true for some, but that is okay. They should still be treated with respect and not blamed for their health problems. You don't know why or how they may have become immobile. Able-bodied and differently abled individuals, fat and thin, still have a civil right to receive fair health treatment and not be bullied in public. But back to my own experience. For me, I am not worrying about my fat 24/7.
vintage dress : thrifted
cardigan : torrid
jellies : fred meyer
headscarf : thrfited
glasses : coastal
brooch : gifted from mom
I don't feel heavy or weighed down. I fit in my own body. I feel good in my skin and in my clothes. When I look down at my thighs, I don't see huge, monstrous, horrible things. I see their round shape and pale skin, and they look beautiful and part of me. I feel the way that I assume thinner people feel that are not judged based on their size and fit the standard of normal or ideal. To me, I am ideal. I am exactly the way I am supposed to be. I curl up in bed at night with no regret of how I live my life or the size of my body. I walk around the house naked, sometimes with the blinds open and I could really give a shit who sees me or if my flabby stomach is visible. I do not go through my life wishing I had a different body. I live my life loving my body, and wishing everybody else would stop wanting me to want it to be different. This may not be true for people suffering from body dysmorphia and I don't want to invalidate their condition. I am also not an expert on mental health but I can share with you how I love myself and see my fat body as beautiful. I want to change how the world sees fat bodies and bodies in general. They come in all sizes and shapes. One is not better than the other.
So, by sharing our size, we are saying "Hey world, fuck you! I am {insert size here} and I am no better or worse than any other size. I am not going to live my life basing my value on my size! I am proud to announce my size to the world!" Can you stand up and say that too?
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- Rachele
20 ♥ COMMENTS ♥:
beautiful dress
I wish people could just respect other peoples ideas. Too many people worry about other peoples size and shape just to stop them from having to look at their own situation. Why people feel the need or that they have the right to comment on a persons size or shape is beyond me! I was brought up with the saying " if you dont have anything nice to say then dont say anything" and i stick by that. Although some people take that and use it to give a back handed compliment like " oh that dress is lovely but it would look fabulous if you lost a little weight" this is not a compliment and has no purpose but to put the person down. I love your link up and how every size is getting involved! Your dress is amazing and you look lovely as always you sexy lady! X
Great outfit! I'm new here and so happy I found you! Thankyou for giving me the tools to empower myself. So excited to join in with the body love with you :)
Sorry I linked twice, must have just scraped in on your previous linky so have re-linked now. Hope that's ok?
It's so good being able to read other people's experiences with their bodies! I love linking up to this (when I'm prepared), and you always have such a refreshing view on body image. I find I'm always thinking about my weight/body and I hate it. I'm trying really hard to change that though :) Thanks for sharing this!
THAT DRESS IS SO DREAMY. You look great :D
I'm still a fan of these link ups, even though I'll skip most of them (I'm bad at coordinating) but I have to say I love your dress. Mostly because the white flaps look like Totoro eyes, so your dress is like a perfect Studio Ghibli costume. But also super cute for everyday wear :-)
Oh you PNWesterners have such great style :)
I've been lurking for a bit now. I just wanted to let you know how much you've changed me. Everyday I come here and get excited about who I am. And each day, I realize my body is amazing. I lost a lot of weight and when you do that, you kind of become the saggy elephant. In no way is mine the worst that I have seen but it was enough to bother me. It seemed unfair. But now I realize it tells a story just like my stretch marks and laugh lines. I wear my shorts and mini skirts with a little more confidence. And who knows maybe people see my incredible arms that I've worked so hard for or my fantastic hair style. If they don't well I just don't a give a shit anymore. Seriously its so stupid.
In regards to this post. We all are judged in one way or another. Do you know how bad I wanted to kick a wall and freakin punch something when I used to hear how how unhealthy I looked and THEN to have people tell me I was to skinny. Including my freakin DOCTOR! Its like you can't win no matter what you do. I am actually well within a healthy BMI, like right in the middle. I am telling you right now we can't win....women. can. not. win. PERIOD. Ok that's not true if we could accept ourselves and stop being so judgemental of each other. I think it's interesting it has been all women who have told me I am now to skinny including that doctor. On the flip side my husband and my male doctor think I look just fine. Us women dang we beat ourselves up and then spread the evil to each other. If it could only stop. I really believe your blog and the other positive body image blogs is a good starting point. I am planning on converting my blog over more into doing the same and stop talking so much about exercise. I even bore myself now. So thank you from the bottom of my heart thank you thank you thank you PS I think you are drop dead beautiful. PPS I see plus size women in the gym and on my canal everyday. They are insanely fit and some of them kick my ass on a regular basis. I also work in a job where I see a lot of vitals, blood pressure, iron levels, heart rates. Size does not in anyway equate your health level. I wish people would get that out of their heads. Sorry this is so long i'm sure you hear this all the time but you deserve to hear it again.:)
oh goodness I love this.
Thank you for being so awesome.
You ma'am are amazing.
Hello!
I found your blog & link up from Allana over at High Maintenance Hippy. I think this is beautiful, empowering and inspiring. PS. you look rockin, i love your hair! xx
Love this dress and how you styled it!! <3
Dude. I am totally in love with you and your awesome positivity! I am working super hard on fighting years of being miserable in my own skin and your blog is seriously helping me a lot while I work through it. Thanks for being you and sharing what you share.
I love that dress!! Plus that pin makes it look ten times schnazzier ;D
Oh Rachel, you are just FAB! After a particularly crap day yesterday where someone sent me a link to a "fat around the stomach is bad and this is what it's doing to your organs" video, basically saying.....you have a fat stomach, you're killing yourself.....it made be feel unworthy, disgusting even.....it took me the whole day to convince myself I'm actually quite happy being the size I am! Then I read your blog and your positivity and freakin awesome attitude just jumped out at me and said "ENOUGH with the body crap.....just be you.....it's all good". After you redesigned my blog I totally wanted to go in the direction of outfit posts, and I've been too scared to do it......but thats it, I'm going to pop on a fab outfit & get hubby to take a pic and join in on the size link up! THANKYOU for being the super duper gal you are : ) love and peace xox
I so needed to read this today! Thank you! :)
Awesome post, love every word!
you rule. you're gorgeous. and i love what you stand for.
Awesome post. You are looking totally FAB. I love your dress and the jacket. Way to go girl !!
My mother sends me the same kind of stuff and if I'm not dieting then I've "given up." My folks are both overweight, but my dad spent most of his adult life morbidly obese and an uncontrolled diabetic and thinks I will end up the same if I don't lose weight. If I tell them I'm walking and just trying to take in more fruits and veggies, I get a lecture....so frustrating.
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