All sizes are beautiful! Don't be ashamed of your number or keep it from living your life and doing what you love. There is no perfect or wrong size. It doesn't determine our worth and nobody has the right to judge someone's health by their size. So let's show the world that every size can be happy and that we are not ashamed!
How to participate:I would love to see all different sizes represented in this link up. Whether you are a 0 or 32, participate! This is a weekly feature so each link up will be open for one week. You can add your link anytime during the week. All genders, sexes and non-genders are welcome to join in. Use whatever sizing you are most familiar with. You can link up with me every week with a new post or join in every once in a while! The rules are simple. Post a photo of yourself on your blog, feeling confident. Post a full body shot, so head to toe! State your size in your blog post or with a graphic on your photo. No diet talk, weight loss talk, negativity or any type of body shaming allowed. This is about being happy with your size and shape, not because it is socially acceptable, healthy or better than others. Then come back here and add your link using the link tool at the end of this post.
It makes a huge difference in me when I am surrounded by supportive and body positive peeps. I appreciate you guys! There is a stark contrast when I find myself listening to diet talk, body shame and food guilt over and over. Sometimes it can be hard for me to be around those types of people. I feel like I am responsible for being an example and spread the word of fat love like some sort of chubby cult leader. So I try and speak up or show how happy I am with my size and that I can make healthy choices without a goal of weight loss. Or at least direct the conversation to more interesting and positive topics. But when the situation gets to a point where I am feeling exhausted, vulnerable and almost bullied, I have to ask myself if it is worth it. I may not want to spend time with that person anymore and I wish it was easier to explain or resolve. I drop hints and have come out with it very directly! But how can you tell someone that their choices are effecting you? They can do whatever they want with their body and image and it not my place to tell anybody what to do in regards to those things.
But people need to understand that when they insist on going on and on about how bad this so-and-so food is for their diet, while you are eating that said food, is not a pleasant experience. That when your body looks like theirs and they are saying how theirs isn't good enough, it is a reflection on you. It's not like I expect to live in a bubble, although it would be nice, I do expect to not be forced to hear about it at every turn. I also feel like if someone really knows me and wants to be a good friend and spend time with me, they would know enough about me that they aren't going to impress me with their tale about how they have been starving themselves and wear smaller jeans than me now.
dress : torrid
cardigan : thrifted
owl perler bead brooch : made by me
shoes : torrid
glasses : coastal
I want to be surrounded by big happy women with thighs that go forever and sassy mouths. I want to eat cupcakes and laugh about our latest exploits and how big girls can do crazy sex moves too. There would be rolls, dimples and absolutely no talk about how we hate ourselves. Our identities would never be based on what fad diet we were on or who could win a body part insult contest. Sounds like a dream!
A big step to loving your body is to stop negative body talk!