I spent last month thinking about a 52 week project that I could do on this here blog. I've also had ECourses in the back of my mind. So, I decided to combine the two and am excited to present to you "How to Be a Fat Bitch"!
I will be sharing a lesson that you can use to work towards loving your fat body, living a fierce life and feeling confident. This ECourse is about fat acceptance, activism and fatshion. You can watch the vlog and read along and then you will be given an assignment and an opportunity to discuss it with me and other readers. You will also be prompted with some discussion questions. There will be room for all levels of body positive advocates to participate. This will be a chance to focus in on a specific aspect of fat acceptance and fatshion so that you can integrate it into your life and be a fat bitch too! Assignments don't have a due date and feel free to navigate at your own pace. This ECourse is free and can be done at any time! Click here to register.
A fat bitch is confident, out-spoken and proud of who she is. The word bitch has been used by feminists as a way to reclaim an insult used to demean our cause. Let's get started!
Hey fat bitches! Welcome to my new series "How to be a Fat Bitch". My first lesson is "You are not giving up." A crucial step to becoming a fat bitch is extinguishing the concept that you are giving up. I can't tell you how important this is. The outside world sees a fat person enjoying life and because of their prejudices they don't see that the person is fucking kicking ass, they see someone that has given up on life. Which is SO WRONG! The person I was when I was "trying". By trying I mean dieting, hating myself and treating my body like shit. That person was not happy. They were not strong, they didn't feel good. Once I realized that I can stop doing all that to myself without giving up, I was able to finally love and truly take care of my body how it needed to be taken care of.
Being fat positive is not just loving your fat, You need to be able to look at yourself as a good person. Fat is not a morality issue. That you haven't let go. It is the very opposite. I have actually had people tell me that I have given up and will die. I am like "Are you looking at me? You must be thinking of someone else!" It doesn't hurt my feelings but it really pisses me off. I just want to grab them and shake them and tell them that I am doing so awesome and that none of the crap they are saying is true and they can feel the same way about themselves. Being a fat activist isn't about condoning unhealthy behavior or promoting fatness. I am not trying to get the world fat. Well, maybe a little LOL! Seriously, I am not saying "well its easier for me to just stop working, be lazy and eat entire pizzas and 10 cupcakes". Actual quote, by the way. You don't understand. Before fat acceptance, that would have described me.
I don't need fat acceptance to feel better about myself or make excuses for myself. I need it to stay alive. Because fat people deal with discrimination, bullies and general bullshit on a daily basis because of how someone ELSE feels about our bodies. It is dangerous and we need a support system. We need a way to fight and be fabulous regardless. Regardless of how we are treated, not regardless of our bodies. We are told daily that we are a disease and a problem. I need to not feel that way. I need to be able to think independently and sort through all the junk science. I need to know about the studies that show that fat is not unhealthy and that dieting doesn't work. I need to be able to go work every day and feel good about myself in spite of having to report my weight to my employer so that can determine my value and how much I should pay in fat taxes. The only thing I have given up on is being a punching bag.
I keep coming back to this quote from Lesley Kinzel and don't be surprised if I repeat it through these courses. "The people who get angriest about fat girls looking good and feeling hot are the people who are the most strongly invested in the idea that a person has to be skinny in order to be happy, healthy, and loved." Don't put anymore of your money in that bank.
So don't let some asshole sigh, call you honey and tell you that you can really do it when you say you have stopped dieting. Don't let anyone shame you for being a "bad fatty." Everyone loves a good fatty that tries a million diets, insults herself at every turn and apologizes to every Tom, Dick and Harry for their existence and being seen. She is seen as the one that is trying. Listen world, fat bitches are trying. We are trying to not tear off your face.
Write down 5 things that you are going to do that make you happy. Not "even though you are fat" but because you are fat and awesome. 5 things that have nothing to do with trying for the sake of others. 5 things for yourself and your well being. Like "go out dancing and actually dance", "throw away my scale", "make something yummy and bring it to work to share", "join a yoga class" and "wear that tight leopard skirt". Blog it, Instagram it, Tweet it (#fatbitchecourse, #nearsightedowl), etc. and share it in the comments below. EXTRA CREDIT: Do some of them!
How do you deal with people that make assumptions about you based on being fat? Is the best revenge to live well and be happy? How do you feel about the concept of there being a "good fatty" and a "bad fatty" perceived in society?
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