This week, I am talking about fashion! I can probably go on and on because I really do love wearing cute clothes and sharing them here. My personal style has evolved and is still changing. But it can be challenging to develop a personal style because options are limited and so much intersects with how we feel about clothing. Not to mention where to find clothing! I am starting with a list of tips and will elaborate more as the weeks progress. I also want to mention that if you are just starting, don't feel like you are behind! You are welcome to start at anytime and at your own pace. These posts and comments will stay available in the future as a resource and hopefully, a place to still have discussion.
I will be sharing a lesson that you can use to work towards loving your fat body, living a fierce life and feeling confident. This ECourse is about fat acceptance, activism and fatshion. You can watch the vlog and read along and then you will be given an assignment and an opportunity to discuss it with me and other readers. You will also be prompted with some discussion questions. There will be room for all levels of body positive advocates to participate. This will be a chance to focus in on a specific aspect of fat acceptance and fatshion so that you can integrate it into your life and be a fat bitch too! Assignments don't have a due date and feel free to navigate at your own pace. This ECourse is free and can be done at any time! Click here to register.
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I am on the super-plus size end of plus size clothing as a size 26ish and I am able to find stylish clothes that I like and fit me. I am not going to say it is easy but it is possible. There was a time when it felt impossible because I limited myself. I would be in tears trying to get ready to go somewhere because my Old Navy jeans had holes in them, I didn't have tights or an already barely fitting shirt shrunk up even more in the wash. I hated my clothes and I hated my fat body.
Feeling good about my size made it easier for me to start liking clothes. When I was self-loathing, I had all these rules about what I could wear and where I could shop. Shopping for clothes was up there with paying taxes on my list of dreaded activities. Mostly, because I was ignorant about what size I was. I am pretty sure that I went through a period of time where I didn't even know that I was plus sized. I was easily discouraged and sensitive about how I looked. Now, I feel secure and confident about my wardrobe and the options I have. And I don't spend a lot of money on clothes. I am frugal! So in a sense, I guess I do limit myself because I don't have access to big shopping sprees or designer brands. Most people don't. So here are some tips!
1. Buy used or thrift. At least 50% of my closet is thrifted. Find a handful of thrift stores in your area and go occasionally to browse. Check out their plus size section if they have one and check the other areas too because good things tend to hide. The fun of it is the hunt! You may or may not find anything but when you come across that perfect black and white vintage inspired mini dress, it will be worth it. Plus, you are saving tons of money.
2. Fuck flattering! Dress the shape you have not the shape you think you should be. Nothing should be off-limits! You don't have to hide behind your clothes. Wear it tight, high-waisted, see-though, bright colors, stripes, polka dots. Whatever you love and feel comfortable in, rock it. Forget the rules. Wear clothes that reflect your personality.
3. Accept your size and become familiar and comfortable with it. Take your measurements and make mental notes of sizes that work for you. Pay attention to how different stores fit you. I know which ones I need to size up and which ones I need to size down. I also know what areas of my body are bigger and what kind of things I can get away with in smaller sizes. Like I can shop in certain plus jr. sections and wear a 2X dress as a tunic or a stretchy legging in 2X will fit me, even though I usually wear a 3X.
4. Get rid of things that don't fit you. Also, don't buy things that don't fit. It doesn't make any sense to hang on to clothes thinking you are going to fit in them later. You body deserves to have clothes that fit.
5. Inspiration can come from all places. I love following fat bloggers, especially the ones that dress on a budget. Take note of where they get their clothes from so you can pick up a few pieces for yourself. You can also get fashion inspiration from thin people. Rather than depending on a plus size clothing company for trends, I like to put together an aesthetic that turns me on and get my clothing from multiple places to complete that aesthetic.
6. Mix it up. Add things to your wardrobe that are bold, comfortable, classic and versatile. Buy a variety so you have a few skirts, pants, tops, dresses, etc. that you can continue to remix and build on. Build a collection of accessories and shoes. Keep a mental inventory of what you have and don't have and try to fill in the gaps. It doesn't have to happen overnight either. I keep an eye out for things I need when I am thrifting or wait for sales or promo codes to seek out what I need.
7. Sometimes you have to be a little creative. Like wearing a dress like a tunic or finding items that are meant to be baggy but you can wear it more fitted. I also do things like cut off collars and sleeves. If you can sew, alter things or have them altered. Add a detachable peter pan collar to a scoop neck dress. Fold the top of a long skirt down and belt it to make a short flowy skirt. You don't have to wear the clothes as they were intended and you can still look put together.
8. Take risks. Come out of your shell and take a chance on something. You don't have to look like everyone else or blend in. Don't be afraid to stand out! Stop reading magazines that tell you how to hide your body. Be visible and proud! You might feel a little anxious at first, like hyper-aware of your body and what you are wearing, but you'll get over it when you realize how fierce you look and from all the compliments you'll get.
9. Dress for yourself. Ask yourself if you look good. It's imposible to please everyone and because you are fat doesn't mean you owe it to anyone to look a certain way. But you can make yourself happy and dress the way you want.
Challenge yourself to wear something that you might have felt wary about in the past. Break up your routine with something different and you might open yourself up to some radical new styles! Blog it, Instagram it, Tweet it (#fatbitchecourse, #nearsightedowl), etc. and share it in the comments below.
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