When I get dressed, I don't do it for the gaze of others. I choose to look exactly the way I want to. I am not concerned with appearing acceptable or within the boundaries of conventional beauty. This threatens men that can't imagine a world where a female doesn't live for the male gaze. I have been mocked for how I describe myself and identify, deemed disgusting and stupid.
This quote from Zooey Deschanel's character in New Girl deals with a similar issue, "I brake for birds. I rock a lot of polka dots. I have touched glitter in the last 24 hours. I spend my entire day talking to children. And I find it fundamentally strange that you’re not a dessert person. It freaks me out. I’m sorry that I don’t talk like Murphy Brown. And I hate your pants suit. I wish it had ribbons on it or something just to make it slightly cuter but that doesn’t mean I’m not smart and tough and strong."
That as women, we have to justify our existence by how we dress and behave. If you are too girly, you are twee and childish. If you dress butch, you are a man-hater and ball breaker. And in my case, I am a fat cat lady feminist, and am therefore unappealing in every way. So much that someone is compelled to describe how I should be murdered or die from a disease. Even though I have no direct contact or interaction with this person, my existence and opinion of myself and my own body is enough to put them in a tizzy. Their opinion ultimately doesn't matter to me, but this climate of misogyny that allows women to be objectified, threatened and harmed while hundreds of people join in an online forum is disturbing and fucked up.
So, with my outfit of clear glasses, a polka-dotted skirt, cat face shirt and short asymmetrical haircut, I give all that bullshit a middle finger! I'm smart and tough and strong.
cat shirt : ebay
skirt : thrifted
glasses : coastal
shoes : target
belt : fat fancy