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8/12/13

OOTD: Fat Cat Lady Feminist


When I get dressed, I don't do it for the gaze of others. I choose to look exactly the way I want to. I am not concerned with appearing acceptable or within the boundaries of conventional beauty. This threatens men that can't imagine a world where a female doesn't live for the male gaze. I have been mocked for how I describe myself and identify, deemed disgusting and stupid.

This quote from Zooey Deschanel's character in New Girl deals with a similar issue, "I brake for birds. I rock a lot of polka dots. I have touched glitter in the last 24 hours. I spend my entire day talking to children. And I find it fundamentally strange that you’re not a dessert person. It freaks me out. I’m sorry that I don’t talk like Murphy Brown. And I hate your pants suit. I wish it had ribbons on it or something just to make it slightly cuter but that doesn’t mean I’m not smart and tough and strong."

That as women, we have to justify our existence by how we dress and behave. If you are too girly, you are twee and childish. If you dress butch, you are a man-hater and ball breaker. And in my case, I am a fat cat lady feminist, and am therefore unappealing in every way. So much that someone is compelled to describe how I should be murdered or die from a disease. Even though I have no direct contact or interaction with this person, my existence and opinion of myself and my own body is enough to put them in a tizzy. Their opinion ultimately doesn't matter to me, but this climate of misogyny that allows women to be objectified, threatened and harmed while hundreds of people join in an online forum is disturbing and fucked up.

So, with my outfit of clear glasses, a polka-dotted skirt, cat face shirt and short asymmetrical haircut, I give all that bullshit a middle finger! I'm smart and tough and strong.

cat shirt : ebay
skirt : thrifted
glasses : coastal
shoes : target
belt : fat fancy
lipstick : covergirl and sephora

28 ♥ COMMENTS ♥:

Jacqueline said...

well said. u should do exactly what you want, as long as it doesn't hurt another person (which i don't think you do) . rock on.

Elsie Vega said...

Love your outfit, and I really hate when being girly is seen as being weak or shallow, and even in some circles as anti-feminist. Why can't I support women's rights and love pink?

Ashley said...

I started following your blogs a few weeks ago and I cannot begin to tell you how much you have inspired me and uplifted me. My weight has always been an issue for me, especially with my fat shaming family. So to see you, your blog, your thoughts, and the entire body positive movement has made me a better person. Thank you.

Also, you totally had me at fat cat lady feminist.

Patsy Nevins said...

Absolutely true. I am not fashionable, I live in jeans & tees because that is MY style, I collect tees with various fantasy/scifi designs or cartoon characters, I have short hair & never wear makeup, but I am still a valid, worthy human being. I will be 64 next month, & getting older is actually freeing for me, because I feel as if I am no longer even expected to be pleasing to the male gaze. How we live & how we dress is no one's business but our own. It is why I have never understood the appeal...or even the premise...of a tv show like "What Not to Wear". Who the hell are they to tell people what to wear, to try to take away clothes which someone loves & feels comfortable wearing? We live in a culture these days where it is entirely too common & too accepted for everyone to mind everyone else's business, a nanny culture which wants to control every aspect of our existence. It is important to assert our individuality & our personal autonomy any way we can.

Kitsch Vixen said...

This blog post and outfit is perfection. Fat cat lady feminists unite!

Joyce said...

you look absolutely adorable (again!)

Teen Halpin said...

Preach, sister.

Beverly said...

Agreed. This is me. You said it all Ashley. Way to go Rachele for being the badass you want to be and not being a conformist a hole!

JesTheMilitantBaker said...

I'm a fat cat lady feminist as well... it's the trifecta of power and awesome!

Amanda Rose said...

FUCK. YEAH. I just love you. :)

Allison Kennedy said...

FUCK YEAH!!! My idol kills it again.

Kym Bozarth said...

Yeppers!!

Hope said...

You are a babe Rachele and fuck people who tell you otherwise. The worst part is it's not just men that shame women's clothing, it's other women too. WE need to all be in this together, equally fighting for the cause.

Elena Davies said...

I'm another one. And I wouldn't want to be anything else!

Helen said...

Yes! all round agreement here
also I love your hair and cat face t shirt, so fun!

Buttercup Rocks said...

De-lurking fellow fat cat lady feminist here. That is a truly excellent outfit. I once overheard someone say, "If they don't fuckin' like me they can fuckin' fuck themselves". I have always tried to live by this mantra.

Berlyn said...

You are beautiful and rocking this outfit. And you're an inspiration. I'm sick of the girl-on-girl hate I'm privy to almost every day. It's bad enough we get it from men. I wish more girls would give that bullshit the middle finger and live for themselves, screw the male gaze and how we're "supposed" to look.

buffee said...

you are adorable <3 also, that cat shirt is awesome. and so is feminism. and asymmetrical haircuts. and you are correct, all bodies are beautiful. keep on rocking life!

KnotByGranma said...

THIS is the message we need to be seeing more of everywhere, instead of ripping each other down. I love your attitude and that cat shirt is pretty sweet too. :)

Rachel GeeBee said...

I dont have anything to say, but fuck 'em.

Chrissy Z. said...

Yes!!!

Bethany Kline said...

that shirt is friggin rad

thirties girl said...

Rock on with your bad self. Even though you may not want to be, you are an inspiration.

Allie Seelig said...

You go! I love New Girl just for quotes like that. I like that she can be a feminist and be super girly as much as some ladies can be tough or butchish (sorry--not my favorite word) feminists. xx


Allie // callmesassafras.com

unitedstatesofbecky said...

Love this outfit, gorgeous girl!

Mizanne said...

Rock it the fuck out! I love your attitude and you inspire me.

Mills said...

I absolutely adore your confidence and open-mindedness towards everyone. You totally inspire me that I can be happy in who and what I am and that I don't need to give a shit what anyone else thinks, because the people that care will care no matter what. If only the world was full of YOU's, it would be a much happier place. And all the people that make ignorant, rude and disgusting comments need to grow up and realise that not everything has a set, stereotypical way. I am smart, tough and strong and you've helped me see that. YOU'RE AMAZING :D

Nell said...

I just loved reading this. Thank you for being such a strong and beautiful person.

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